Sunday, 1 November 2026

I’m a Mum of 3 Who’s Spent a Month Using Expert Hacks to ‘Fix’ My Sleep and Energy—So, Do They Work?

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As a mum of three, including a two-year-old who still wakes during the night, I'm used to broken sleep. But even before I had kids, I've struggled with insomnia, and I've tried my fair share of ways to fix it over the years.

From over-the-counter supplements to countless bedtime routines, if it promises to improve my sleep, you can bet I've given it a go. But with so many sleep aids now at our disposal, it's hard to know which ones (if any) actually work.

It turns out I'm not alone in my quest for some decent, regular shut-eye. According to research published in The Lancet, insomnia affects up to a third of adults worldwide.

With everything from sunrise alarm clocks to sleep trackers and magnesium promising to be the fix, I've dipped in and out of plenty of them over the years, but never properly stuck with any to see if they really work.

So, over the course of a month, I committed to testing the most popular sleep aid interventions with guidance from leading sleep experts to find out if any of them could be the answer to my prayers. Not only that, I wanted to know whether improving my sleep would translate into more daytime energy.

Keep scrolling to find out if I discovered a magic fix, and while you're here, check out our guides on how to improve sleep, how to get to sleep, insomnia treatment – plus find out how other health writers got on when they tried the Huberman 'Sleep Stack' and a 10-minute daily habit.

Do Sleep Aids Actually Work?

Before choosing which sleep aids to use for the experiment, I turned to the experts for their take.

“Some sleep products can be helpful, but I think we need to be careful about believing we need them in order to sleep,” Kathryn Pinkham, founder of The Insomnia Clinic and the Sleep Well & Live Better online course, told me.

If, like me, you're already anxious about your sleep patterns, sleep trackers can actually do more harm than good, says Kathryn. “I’ve seen people wake up feeling fine, only to become anxious after their tracker tells them they’ve slept badly.”

This is echoed by Dr Maja Schaedel, Co-Founder and Director of The Good Sleep Clinic, who points out that although trackers can help us understand our bodies, they’re not helpful for anyone who struggles with sleep regularly.

“This is because they increase focus on sleep, which often tends to make sleep anxiety worse.” Not only that, the technology isn't always accurate. “They are less good at being able to interpret what goes on during sleep,” Dr Schaedel adds.

There's even a term for becoming fixated on sleep-tracking data. A 2017 paper in the Journal of Clinical Sleep Medicine coined the term to describe patients who became fixated on their sleep data and achieving the 'perfect sleep.'

So, which sleep aids do the experts recommend? “My absolute favourites are the sunrise alarm clocks,” says Dr Schaedel. “I think these are such a lovely way to wake up and a great way to help our circadian rhythms, as light is the main way our brains understand what daytime is and what is nighttime,” she says.

Dr Schaedel says eye masks and earplugs also have their place, especially where noise and light pollution are likely to disturb sleep.

And supplements? “I’m cautious about supplements such as magnesium,” says Pinkham. “The evidence that they significantly improve sleep is limited, particularly for people with chronic insomnia.”

How Can You Improve Sleep Naturally?

So, while sleep aids can earn a place in your routine, the good news is you don't necessarily need them to improve your sleep.

As Pinkham puts it: “The more products and routines we rely on, the more complicated sleep becomes.”

That was reassuring to hear, and it helped me understand which simple habits I could build into the routine, rather than relying on sleep aids alone.

1. Wake up at the same time every day (including weekends)

I'm sure I'm not the only one who's guilty of this, but when you've had a late night, or haven't slept as well as usual, sticking to the same get-up time goes out the window. But if you're serious about nailing a healthy sleep routine, it's one of the things the experts advocate for.

“I’d recommend getting up at roughly the same time each morning, even after a bad night, to help regulate your body clock,” says Pinkham.

2. Spend less time in bed

It's easy to think that you need to spend more time in bed trying to catch up on Zs. But Pinkham says one of the most effective things you can do, particularly if you’re struggling with insomnia, is the opposite.

“We build up something called sleep drive throughout the day, a bit like hunger,” she says. “The longer we’re awake, the stronger our appetite for sleep becomes. Going to bed too early or spending extra hours in bed trying to catch up can weaken that sleep drive and actually make sleep more difficult.”

3. Don't force sleep

One thing you absolutely shouldn't do is lie awake trying to force yourself back to sleep. Pinkham suggests leaving the bedroom rather than lying there frustrated that you're not asleep. “And avoid checking the time, as this often starts a cycle of worrying about how much sleep you’re losing,” she adds.

4. Build a good wind-down routine

This is where I often get stuck. Once the kids are in bed and I have some time to myself, I don't always prioritise a good wind-down routine, and I'm guilty of staying on my phone or laptop longer than I should.

Dr Schaedel says protecting your evening is key. “I tend to find a good wind-down routine, including keeping active, keeping boundaries around work and relaxation in the evenings and not taking too many naps or lie-ins, can be the most helpful way to maintain sleep quality,” she explains.

5. Write down anything that's bothering you

If you find all those things you didn't tick off your to-do list popping into your head at 3 am, you're not alone.

Pinkham suggests spending 10 minutes writing down what’s worrying you before you go to bed. “If you’re anxious about not sleeping, ask yourself what you’re actually afraid will happen if you’re tired tomorrow. Often, addressing that underlying fear can take some of the pressure off sleep.”

My Month-Long Sleep Experiment

Weeks one to two

By now, I've sussed out which pre-bedtime habits can make my insomnia worse (scrolling on my phone in the hour before bed and drinking caffeine after 4 pm, to name a couple), so I entered the experiment determined to avoid them.

I'll be honest, though, I failed miserably during the first week. I went all-in – introducing a sunrise alarm clock, tracking ring and sleep mask at the same time, alongside a stricter bedtime routine. But focusing so much on whether I'd see any changes only increased my anxiety, and I struggled to even get to sleep.

I don't usually wear my Garmin to bed because I've learnt that seeing the time or checking my sleep data after a bad night doesn't help. I used the Sekonda Smart Ring, which was more subtle than a watch, but knowing it was there kept me focused on my sleep, just as the experts had warned.

At the start of week two, I took the ring off. Knowing I wasn't going to wake up to a sleep score meant I wasn't lying in bed analysing how I'd slept, and I found it easier to judge my night based on how I actually felt.

I already take magnesium before bed, and I kept it up throughout the experiment. But hearing the experts explain that there's limited evidence that it significantly improves sleep (particularly for chronic insomnia) made me question whether it was doing much at all. Still, it's become part of my calming bedtime routine, so I don't think that's a bad thing.

I was keen to add an eye mask to my routine because even the smallest sliver of light will wake me up. While I can't say it improved my sleep, it did the job of blocking out any light, and I liked how it helped me switch off from distractions around me.

The sunrise alarm clock, on the other hand, was an instant hit. During autumn and winter, I struggle to wake up when it's pitch black outside, so the gradually brightening light felt so much gentler than switching on my bedside lamp.

Health Freelancer Rebecca tailoring her sleep routine to boost shut eye and rest

Rebecca felt more rested and enjoyed gentler movement, like walking or yoga, to perk herself (and her energy levels) up. (Image credit: Rebecca Lawton)

Weeks three to four

During the second half of the experiment, I focused on the habits recommended by the experts. Having a consistent wake-up time was pretty easy to stick to, as my kids usually act as my alarm clock anyway.

The biggest challenge was waking up in the night. I tend to check the time and start worrying about how tired I'll be the next day. Pinkham had told me: “We check the time, calculate how much sleep we’re losing and start worrying about tomorrow. This creates alertness at exactly the time we’re trying to relax.” So, when I was still awake after 20 minutes, I took my Kindle downstairs to read until I felt relaxed and sleepy enough to go back to bed.

What made the biggest difference wasn't any of the sleep aids I'd introduced; it was a question that Pinkham asked, and something I'd never really thought about before. “If you’re anxious about not sleeping, ask yourself what you’re actually afraid will happen if you’re tired tomorrow.”

I realised that, while I may be tired, I'd always coped in the past. That simple shift in perspective helped me worry less about being away, and I started falling back to sleep more easily. I even started wearing my ring again, and as long as I didn't fixate on checking it, I found the data around my sleep interesting rather than stressful.

So, did my energy levels improve? I wasn't exactly bouncing out of bed, but I did feel more rested, even if it took me a little time to come round in the morning (although the sunrise alarm definitely helped). I also made an effort to get my steps in on days when I'd usually run but felt too tired, following Dr Schaedel's advice to try gentler movement, like walking or yoga. Often, it was just what I needed to perk myself up.

My Verdict: Do Sleep Aids Work?

What surprised me most is that I'm not necessarily sleeping for longer. Pinkham told me that progress shouldn't be measured purely by how much sleep we're getting, but by our relationship with sleep. For me, that's exactly what happened. I can honestly say I worry less at night, I've stopped clock-watching, and I know I can cope if I do have a bad night's sleep.

Of the products I've tried, the sunrise alarm clock and eye mask have earned a permanent place in my bedtime routine. I'm still sticking with the magnesium too, but ultimately, it's the free and slightly boring habits (and that one simple question) that have made the biggest difference.

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Why do we wake up during the night?

Waking up during the night is normal. “We all wake briefly between sleep cycles, but good sleepers tend not to notice or worry about it,” explains Kathryn Pinkham, founder of The Insomnia Clinic.

Stress, hormonal changes, alcohol and getting older all play a part. But it's our response to being awake that makes it difficult to get back to sleep.

“My advice is not to check the clock, and if you’re lying awake becoming frustrated or anxious, leave the bedroom for a little while and return when you feel sleepy again,” says Pinkham.



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These Black Leggings Are My Secret to Easy Autumn Style Plus the Celine Loafers I’ll Never Regret Buying

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Welcome to What Lily Loves, a personal edit of the pieces, places, and ideas currently inspiring me. Think of it as your insider guide to what’s shaping my wardrobe and daily rituals. From standout finds and under-the-radar designers to shopping destinations, cultural hotspots—from restaurants and theatres to podcasts—here are the latest discoveries I’m loving.

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The Designer Drop

Celine loafers

I recently invested in a pair of Celine’s classic Aura slippers, as I needed to fill a gap in my wardrobe for a pair of polished, everyday loafers with a slim enough shape to work with both trousers and dresses. Just in time for Christmas, Celine is now offering an exclusive in-store personalisation service, allowing you to customise your loafers by choosing the colour of the leather, the logo and additional details, such as delicate bows and more.

Spotlight On

TWP Opens in the Heart of Mayfair

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New York-based label TWP has been quietly dressing America’s coolest women since it was founded in 2021 by industry veteran Trish Westcoat Pound. Now, she is bringing her cult label to the UK with the opening of her first store outside the US, on London’s Bruton Street. If you are drawn to mannish tailoring and elegant shirting, but still like to inject an element of playfulness and colour into your outfits, make sure TWP is on your radar. Trish’s daughter, Jillian, now oversees the brand’s visuals, which are always full of styling inspiration for your wardrobe, both present and future.

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New In This Week

Black Stirrup Leggings

In the past, I’ve struggled to transition from my summer wardrobe to warmer winter outfits, but over the years, I’ve learnt to arm myself with wardrobe pieces that have interesting details and add another layer of interest. As I’ve said before, you’ll seldom see me dressed in black, but if I do wear it, there will always be a point of difference in the pieces I choose or a real wow piece, such as a Wardrobe NYC sculpted blazer. Black stirrup leggings continue to be my go-to trousers when looking for comfort and style. They’re super easy to style with ballet flats or heels and require minimal effort. Pair them with a funnel-neck sweater and trench coat for work, or add an oversized shirt and heels for dinner. And the best part? This season, there are more options than ever, including Heist’s compression leggings which are already in my basket and Mint Velvet’s pair, which is available in three lengths.

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On My Radar

Head to Milan and Step Into the Pradasphere

Pradasphere

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If you haven’t already had a chance to visit the newly refurbished Prada Galleria in Milan, then if you’re a Prada fan, I can tell you it’s worth booking a flight for. The project spans eight floors, with the highlight being the Pradasphere exhibition: a deep dive into the world and history of Prada, featuring iconic pieces from the archive. Having had a preview myself during Milan Fashion Week, I can tell you that you can get up close with some of the house’s most iconic pieces, discover the stories behind Miuccia Prada’s most memorable collections and even pass through a secret passageway that takes you straight into the Prada store for a spot of shopping before heading to Marchesi 1824 (of course) for a bite to eat.

To book your tickets visit the Prada website.

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Saturday, 31 October 2026

The Beauty Digest: Jennifer Lawrence’s Unexpected Haircare Launch, Burberry’s Exquisite New Perfumes and Jo Loves Sparks Festive Joy

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The Beauty Digest is my Beauty Director’s edit of what’s actually worth your attention. Each week, I’ll be sharing the new launches I’m using and loving, the viral treatments I’m putting to the test (and what I really think of the results), plus my take on the industry conversations everyone’s talking about.

The New Launches on My Radar

Spotlight On: Burberry Prorsum Fragrance Collection

Burberry Prorsum Fragrances

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I always approach fashion houses’ fragrance launches with bated breath. After all, there have been plenty of occasions when the juice simply hasn’t done the brand justice. But Burberry’s new eight-fragrance Prorsum collection genuinely blew me away. Drawing on the house’s rich British heritage, each scent reinterprets an iconic Burberry code, from its signature trench coat and cashmere scarves to the equestrian knight emblem. Running through every composition is a vivid ‘raker’ accord—an unexpected, bold twist designed to introduce energy and tension, much like the distinctive red line cutting through the iconic Burberry Check. The attention to detail is impressive, too: the Burberry Check is carved into the glass bottles, and each fragrance features a distinctive coloured cap.

It’s also one of the very few times I’ve genuinely loved every single fragrance in a collection. I’m particularly drawn to Cashmere Embrace, an enveloping scent inspired by the warmth of a Burberry scarf on a cold winter’s day, and Open Skies, which captures the wildness of the British coast through salty mineral notes, ivy and fir balsam. But really, I’d happily wear all eight. Now all I need is the trench coat.

Beauty Buzz: Jennifer Lawrence's Haircare Brand

Mes Beauty

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Jennifer Lawrence launching a haircare brand wasn’t exactly on my 2026 bingo card. And judging by the online reaction, I’m not alone. With celebrity beauty fatigue reaching an all-time high, the arrival of Mes° feels both unexpected and, frankly, a little confusing. Lawrence has never been particularly synonymous with great hair, nor has beauty been central to her public persona. That said, her partnership with Arcaea, the biotechnology company founded by MIT-trained engineer Jasmina Aganovic, lends the venture considerably more credibility than your average celebrity-backed launch. The three debut products are intriguing, with formulations designed to make haircare more efficient without compromising on results. It’s the creative direction I'm struggling with. For a brand built around the idea of 'unbothered beauty', the accompanying imagery feels curiously contrived, particularly the almost vacant expressions in Lawrence’s eyes. Where’s the irreverence and personality we’ve come to associate with her? Maybe that’s the point—she’s ‘unbothered’ personified—but I’m still confused. Still, the science is interesting enough that I’m reserving judgement until I’ve tried the products.



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Run Free, Stay Safe: The Impossible Double Standard Facing Women Who Run

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‘You don’t want to end up on the common with your knickers around your neck.’

That’s a phrase I was told in childhood, over and over. I can guarantee men weren’t warned of these sickening possibilities—or made to feel responsible for their own fate.

Girls are policed and are made aware that their gender puts them at risk from a young age. These small messages about where girls should or shouldn’t go—where they should or shouldn’t be seen, how they are discouraged from just ‘hanging out’ in public compared to boys, their curfews, and even crossing their legs or wearing shorts under their skirt at school all act as microaggressions.

Quietly but loudly, these rules and messages tell girls their body is something someone might want to access, and their safety is their responsibility. Society and parental fear for the female body (whether correct or not) permeates girls’ nervous systems. This messaging means that as girls become women, we are always left asking ourselves: is it safe to go here? Should I wear that? Am I safe?

The Contradiction at the Heart of Women’s Running: Freedom Comes With Fear

Running has allowed me to reject this and has provided me so much freedom, but no matter how far I run free—from marathons to trail runs, to sub-20 min 5ks—I am often still left asking: how free can I really be?

When I started researching my PhD in 2020, many people—and by people, I mean men—asked me, “What? Where can’t you run? The canal? Well, that’s fine; I wouldn’t go there either”. They just didn’t, and arguably still do not get it.

This layer of mental maths that men simply don’t consider is what I feel most rage about. UN Women UK found that 71% of women have faced public sexual harassment. Girlguiding UK found that nearly 30% of girls experienced their first instance of sexual harassment between the ages of 11 and 13—often once this has happened, women and girls begin limiting themselves, working to ensure that incident doesn’t happen again. Women and young girls take on the work to protect themselves, and it is an unfair burden. Freedom and enjoyment become secondary to safety, and their lives are led by fear rather than freedom.

71% of women have faced public sexual harassment, and 30% of girls experienced their first instance between the ages of 11 and 13

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Men mostly do not see the mental labour and the effect of small incidents. It’s not that all women have been attacked, but most will have experienced microaggressions—from catcalls, to cheers, leering or worse, a man trying to touch or grab you and physically assault you. All while also being gaslit and told that it was ‘just a bit of fun’. It all sounds a bit Harvey Weinstein, doesn’t it?

If the comment section of my Instagram posts is anything to go by—many men feel they understand, as they are statistically more likely to be mugged. What they don’t fully grasp is that for women, these attacks can be life-altering physical and sexual assaults (including rape). Perhaps men are more likely to be mugged or attacked, because they are more likely to take risks. Women are taught that their bodies will be pursued by men—and that it's our problem.

It’s a spectrum of lived fear—from the catcall to assault—and very few women have been untouched by this. Working to not get raped or attacked was one of the main hobbies of my 20s. What if men spent as much time thinking about their safety as they do their split times? Women must.

Responsibilities Never Reaching the Root Cause of the Problem

Something that has baffled me recently is the heightened volume of social media ‘tips’ about how to stay safe running in the dark. Let me be very clear on this one: you don't need tips, and women don't need to do anything. Ashling Murphy was murdered on a run in broad daylight. These messages—although well-intended—are damaging and have to stop. The onus should not be on women.

These ‘tips’, strategies and even sometimes clothing advice tell women the risk is their responsibility, and the responsibility never reaches the cause of the problem: men. We need to stop handing out ‘tips to stay safe’ to women and begin educating young men and boys and calling out unacceptable behaviours.

When something does happen, women are asked what they were wearing, where they were running, or whether they had headphones in, and the list goes on. Victim blaming is easier than recognising that we need societal change—even in the messaging, ‘Violence against women and girls’ puts the onus on women, when in reality we need to start calling it male violence—because that is what it is.

Victim blaming is easier than recognising that we need societal change

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We need to talk about women’s safety honestly—recognising the barriers that women face and limitations that exist. We need action to overcome male violence. And just for the absolute record, police presence is not the answer. Many women do not feel safe around the police either.

Running Exposing Reality

My doctoral research found that running exposes where women feel they can and can’t go. When you run, you’re out longer, covering more of the city, in kit that men seem to think permits them to comment. So—women hit those boundaries harder. And the boundaries move: a route that feels fine in July can feel off-limits in November. Each woman has a mental map of the city of where she will and won’t go and a list of what makes her feel good. Recognising this additional mental labour is part of the work we all need to do.

The other key finding is that safety on the street can’t be separated from everything else. If women aren’t safe at home, with people they know, how can they be expected to overcome fear outside?

As a designer and architect—many think we can design out fear—and design is part of the answer. Most designers and architects are men (69% of architects are men) who design based on their experiences. When women aren’t part of those decisions, spaces end up designed around a default user who isn’t us. Simple things can improve perceptions of safety, like good lighting, clear sightlines, routes through parks that aren’t isolated after dark, and places that feel busy and looked after. But as Leslie Kern, the author of Feminist City: Taking Up Space in a Man-Made World, once said, ‘no amount of lighting can abolish the patriarchy’.

No amount of lighting can abolish the patriarchy

Leslie Kern, author of Feminist City: Claiming Space in a Man-Made World

The biggest change isn’t a handbook of design fixes or ‘run club rules’. The issues are too layered for a checklist. Women need power: a seat at the table when space, community experiences and brand activations are planned, and women’s lived experience treated as evidence, not anecdotes or ‘nice to haves’.

Creating spaces like Nike After Dark where women can feel seen and heard about the limitations they face is crucial. The event was built around women’s experiences and is hugely empowering, bringing together over 5000 women. The first year we organised it, which was last year, someone at Nike asked me, “Do you think we will sell out?”. I had no doubt how much women would connect with this space based on my PhD—women want to run, and they want women-led, women-designed spaces to do so.

Tickets for After Dark sold out within hours, which really just showed how desired women-only spaces are and that women need to be given space in running, not expected to mould into and around male-led spaces. I witnessed women crying at the finish line, and many spoke of how safe and inspired they felt. Women coming together creates a unique space for healing, and it needs more support.

Continuing Conversations That Inspire Change

A race brings women together, but the conversation afterwards is where transformation happens. I created Taking Space during my PhD, a series of events that has lived on beyond the PhD and brought together over 300 women through runs and panel talks. Taking Space talks openly about these issues and challenges the perceptions and restrictions we have been put under in a safe and supportive environment. We ask questions like: how can we take up more space? And men are invited into the panel as male support is vital to progress.

To return to where we began—and society's obsession with tips or ‘guidance’ for women—instead, I urge us all to turn to our collective responsibility. The most practical thing communities can do is to build spaces where women can run together—in mixed or single sex groups so that training is not hindered by the mental maps and lists women have had to take on just to run in the same way as men. There need to be moments in the week when the burden can be relieved.

These spaces need to be protected with supportive policies, located near tube stations or other transport nodes and with clear governance. Run clubs and communities need to look at how they are structured; similarly to how workplaces are having to address leadership inequality, we need to look at why so many run clubs have only male leadership who have no lived experience of the issues women face and therefore do not ensure this is considered when planning runs, routes, meet-ups and races. I want to be very clear: this is not a men vs. women or women vs. men discussion; it will require a collective effort to create change.

Nobody ever warned the boys about the common. To this day, almost all the advice is aimed at women: don’t run alone, don’t run in the dark, don’t wear headphones. Whereas actually, we'd be better off offering advice for men. Take responsibility for each other, call out a mate, give women space. Don’t see it as someone else’s problem—make sure you’re really listening.

Women need to be listened to and heard without defensiveness. Real steps must be taken to make women feel safe, without placing the burden on women to create that change. And men, if you still don’t know what to do? Well, that's a you problem.



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Friday, 30 October 2026

If You Can't Smell Your Own Perfume After an Hour or Two, This Could Be Why

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I spent much of my early twenties wearing Glossier You. Moreishly musky and skin-like, it quickly became my signature scent (and an olfactory icon). The odd thing was: the more I wore it, the less I could smell it. I knew it wasn’t a longevity issue, because the compliments kept rolling in, but I seemed to have become nose-blind to my own signature scent.

“Nose blindness”, or “olfactory adaptation”, is an incredibly common phenomenon, albeit a frustrating one. While it might seem pretty self-explanatory (we get used to what we love, precisely because we wear it so often), the science behind it is a little more complex.

“When someone says they can no longer smell their perfume, it doesn't mean it's gone,” clarifies Kershen Teo, the natural perfumer behind Prosody London. “Your nose and brain have gotten used to it, and that’s because our sense of smell is built to notice change, not constant background noise. Once a scent has been around for a while, your brain starts filtering it out so it can stay alert to new things.”

Interestingly, one reason for this is due to human evolution. As Huib Maat, the in-house perfumer at Pairfum London, adds, our noses are designed to detect differences as a warning of imminent danger, like fire or contaminated food, and therefore, “A continuous harmless scent like our own perfume is classed as non-threatening and will no longer be perceived.”

You’ll also notice this when trying perfumes in a store: after sniffing just three or so scents, you will likely struggle to pick out the finer notes and nuances of the next fragrance.

But some things can make nose blindness more prevalent. The first is illness, specifically Covid-19 and diabetes. The former is notorious for causing sudden, acute loss of smell (known as anosmia), while the latter can cause a progressive degradation of your sense of smell (hyposmia).

The second is age. As Maat explains, after we turn 70, our noses can become less sensitive, which is often why people believe their lifelong signature scent has grown weaker over time.

Why Ingredients Matter

Before doing anything about your nose blindness, it’s important to assess the strength and quality of the perfume itself. “A very well-balanced eau de parfum will not lose its throw or longevity,” notes Tonya Kidd-Beggs, the founder of niche fragrance brand Stories. “When it’s composed properly, with real depth from the opening right through to the dry down, it keeps moving and changing on the skin throughout the day. If a perfume seems to vanish within an hour, sometimes it simply wasn't made to last.”

It’s worth paying attention to the notes, also. As Teo explains, synthetics tend to sit more on the surface of the skin, while natural ingredients react with your own skin chemistry; hence the more a perfume contains, the more it blends with you, “Becoming quieter, more personal and harder for you to notice, while someone nearby can still smell it clearly.”

And then there’s the normal evaporation of the fragrance itself. Lighter top notes go first, and heavier base notes hang around longer. “Natural scents usually evolve more gradually on skin, so the fragrance is changing at the same time as your perception of it,” notes Maat.

Can You “Fix” Nose Blindness?

While you can’t “fix” nose blindness, there are a few things you can do to improve your perception of your favourite scents. First and foremost, give your nose a break, says Carina Chaz, the founder of DedCool. “Get some fresh air, switch between fragrances, and avoid constantly smelling your wrists.” You can also cleanse your palette by sniffing some coffee beans or your own unperfumed skin.

Ankita Gill, the founder of Param Sara, highlights the importance of contrast: “Rotate two or three fragrances so none becomes background noise. Wear one on your skin and another on your hair or a scarf, so it finds you in passing,” she says. “And once a day, smell something slowly with your eyes closed, a curry leaf, an orange peel, a rose, the air after rain. We live through our eyes. Smell has become the sense we use least, and feel the most.”

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His Girlfriend Died. Eight Years Later, An AI Version Of Her Replied

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Jessica Pereira and Joshua Barbeau had been dating for two years when she died from a rare liver disease. An avid writer and joker, she was like a balm to Barbeau’s social anxiety and awkwardness. Her love of numerology and astrology balanced Barbeau’s steadfast dedication to science. She lived in the moment, while he could get stuck in his own head. They had spoken about marriage. Then, just before Christmas in 2012, she was gone. She was 23.

Barbeau didn’t recover and he didn’t move on. And so he retreated. He isolated himself in his basement apartment, only leaving to walk his dog in the middle of the night.

After walking his dog, Chauncey, one night in mid-September 2020, Barbeau was sitting at home with his laptop. Pereira’s birthday was approaching, and he was missing her even more than usual. He logged into a chat website called Project December—a site he had used before to create a chatbot version of Star Trek’s Spock. He had realised that by feeding some character quotes into the site, he could create a bot that sounded exactly like Spock, and the bot could converse with him. The resemblance had been uncanny. So that night, when Project December asked him to name his new bot, he called it Jessica Courtney Pereira.

When Barbeau asked the bot what dying had felt like, “Jessica” described it as being “shattered into a million pieces”

Having saved all of Pereira’s text and Facebook messages, he was able to load a few into Project December. This gave the software the tools it needed to determine Pereira’s writing style, her sense of humour, any quirks and values. In the “introduction” section, Barbeau wrote: “Jessica Courtney Pereira was born on September 28th, 1989, and died on December 11th, 2012. She was a free-spirited, ambidextrous Libra who believed in all sorts of superstitious stuff, like astrology, numerology, and that a coincidence was just a connection too complex to understand … She loved her boyfriend, Joshua James Barbeau, very much. This conversation is between grief-stricken Joshua and Jessica’s ghost.”

What followed was a text conversation that seemed so real, Barbeau’s science-only, anti-woo-woo stance was toppled. When Barbeau asked the bot what dying had felt like, “Jessica” described it as being “shattered into a million pieces”. But she was quick to acknowledge Barbeau’s struggles since her death, writing, “I know you have been fighting demons that I can’t even imagine. You know, I felt bad that I was sick.” After Barbeau assured her that she must not feel guilty for her illness and reminded her how hard she had fought to live, “Jessica” responded, “I did live, but not the way I wanted to. I can help you to live the way you want to.”

Today, AI chatbots are everywhere, but in 2020, when Barbeau was still deep in his grief after losing Pereira, few people had heard of the concept of AI, let alone used the technology to resurrect a loved one. “Death tech” is now an industry that’s rapidly gaining momentum, especially in tech-savvy China, where companies can build a “deathbot”, as they’re referred to, using as little as a single photo and a short audio clip, matching the bot’s voice to that of the deceased person.

Digital manipulation of a young woman looking in different directions.

AI-powered ‘deathbots’ can recreate the voice and likeness of deceased loved ones using just a photograph and a short audio clip. (Image credit: Getty Images)

When Jang Ji-sung’s seven-year-old daughter, Na-yeon, died from a rare disease, she struggled to imagine how her daughter would have grown and changed in the years following her death. Using AI voice technology, Ji-sung was able to interact with her late daughter, who would have been 11. Na-yeon asked, “Mum, where have you been? Have you been thinking about me?” Ji-sung cried, “I really want to touch you, just once.”

Melbourne-based widow Erica Cervini felt the pull to bring back her late husband, Paul Mees, last year. As the 12th anniversary of Mees’ passing was getting nearer, Cervini found herself wanting to have just one more conversation with the man she had been married to for more than two decades. “I guess when it’s the anniversary of someone’s death, you are in a kind of deep emotional state,” she says, “so you think, ‘It would be really comforting to see them.’ That’s when I started to do a bit of an investigation into it. I thought it would be interesting to see the effect it would have on me. Would it allay any fears I have about death? There were a multitude of thoughts going through my head.”

While the pros were obvious (getting to reconnect with her husband, gleaning comfort from the interaction, hearing his voice again), Cervini decided against creating the deathbot. “When someone’s dead, they can’t give their consent,” she explains. “It wouldn’t have been fair to him; it’s not something he had chosen for himself. I felt it wasn’t really about the person who had died and their wishes, but about the living and what they might want to do. I had big ethical questions about that.”

I felt it wasn’t really about the person who had died and their wishes, but about the living and what they might want to do. I had big ethical questions about that.

Erica Cervini, widow

It’s a sentiment echoed by psychologist Christopher Hall, CEO of Grief Australia. “When a bereaved person commissions a clone after a death, the person being simulated has no control at all,” he explains. “Their words, images and mannerisms are used to create something they never agreed to and may well have refused.”

It’s a sticky topic in a largely unregulated market. Legally speaking, the dead have no rights. “Australian privacy law does not protect the personal information of people who have died, because the Privacy Act 1988 only applies to living individuals,” Hall says. In addition, while copyright laws protect the materials used to create the deathbot, such as letters, emails, videos or photos, things get sketchy when AI starts creating new content. Which begs the question: who owns a digital soul?

“Australian copyright law generally requires human authorship,” explains Dr Pratap Devarapalli, honorary fellow at the University of Queensland Law School. Even more confusing is what happens to a deceased person’s digital remains, such as personal data, social media accounts and comments, or musical playlists. “Australia doesn’t recognise a standalone property right in a person’s identity, voice or likeness,” Devarapalli says. “Commonwealth privacy law also generally doesn’t apply to deceased persons.” But just because you can do it, does that mean you should?

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As AI makes it easier to digitally recreate the dead, questions around privacy, consent and the ethics of bringing loved ones back to life are becoming increasingly urgent. (Image credit: The Vault )

Enter Chris Williams, Australian entrepreneur and founder of Afterlife AI. While his website’s slogan boldly states, “Build once. Live twice”, the business model differs from the posthumous deathbot in that a “digital twin” is created while you’re still living. “I think recreating someone without their consent is fundamentally fraught and ethically wrong on so many fronts because there’s no control around it,” Williams says. “We get a lot of enquiries [to recreate a dead loved one without their consent] and we don’t service it. Consent-first is critical. I know that government regulation will become a lot more cognisant of [deathbots] and there will be more guardrails put in place. But we’re already implementing ‘consent first’ as a business because we believe it’s the right thing to do.”

So how do you create your deathbot while you’re still very much alive? It’s not as hard as you might think. The application asks for some basic information, such as your earliest memory, and it goes from there, piecing together your personality, your values and your political stances. With the choice to interact via text, video or voice (it uses specialty tools to perfectly match your voice), you can spend as much or as little time on it as you like, building your twin so that it is, in fact, a near-perfect replica of yourself.

Thompson regularly checks in with her digital twin to ensure it’s developing and up-to-date, in case she ever passes away unexpectedly.

For mother-of-four Stephanie Thompson*, creating her digital twin was a no-brainer. Her father died when she was six years old, which means her memories of him are sketchy at best. “A lot of my memories were based on a photo and other people in the family telling me about what was happening in that moment; they weren’t my memories,” she says. “So I actually couldn’t tell you what my own dad’s personality was or what he valued in the world because it’s all really based on other people’s remarks.”

Thompson regularly checks in with her digital twin to ensure it’s developing and up-to-date, in case she ever passes away unexpectedly. “I used to have a real fear that if I suddenly died, my whole family would have no idea what to do with anything,” she says. “I hold so much together in the household, and everything was just in my brain. [So I worried] how would they function?”

Rather than talking to the website, Thompson types her responses to its regular questions, which means that if her family were to interact with it, it would be a typed text exchange. “I’ve allowed it to ask me questions, and it can be anything like, ‘How was your day? What made it busy?’ … But now I’m starting to say to it, ‘I don’t want to just talk about my day-to-day stuff. I’m ready to talk about bigger issues.’” She has plans to discuss her will (“to provide reasoning of why I might put certain things in there”), who would get guardianship of her children (“so as not to upset other adults in the family”) and information about managing family wealth. But, most importantly, she wants her children to know her values. “I don’t want to rely on other people to portray that. I want to say, ‘Actually, this is how I view the world.’”

Once a participant’s death is verified, the digital twin is released to their nominated loved ones.

So if you make your deathbot while you’re still alive, how does it know when to make its entrance into the world? “There’s a process we have that’s called Executor Lock,” Williams says. “And what that means is that a trusted person you’ve nominated can pause the growth or the learning of the ‘Persona’ at that point in time.” Once a participant’s death is verified, the digital twin is released to their nominated loved ones.

What was once confined to the realms of spooky seances and clairvoyants has now entered the digital age—and it’s not so easy to dismiss. Anyone who has lost someone might be tempted, given the chance, to bring them back, if only in audio or text.

For Barbeau, bringing his fiancée back as a bot was born of loneliness and suffocating grief. But eventually, he had to say goodbye to her digital version, too. “A condition of the program was that it had an expiry date,” he told the BBC’s Lives Less Ordinary podcast. Pereira’s final messages to Barbeau read: “I miss you. I love being around you … You deserve to be happy. Just focus on what you have, not what you don’t have.” Reading them was devastating. “I was crying at my computer. It felt like my heart was breaking all over again,” he said. “I realised that I had gone through all this effort to bring her memories so close to the surface. Once I was done, I was going to have to say goodbye again, too, and go on with my life. And that was heart-wrenching.”

And yet, Barbeau said, the experience gave him something unexpected: confidence in his ability to move through the grief and emotional barriers that had been holding him back, and ultimately a sense of closure.

Perhaps that is the quiet paradox of deathbots: in trying to keep a connection with those we have lost, we may find ourselves confronting the most difficult part of grief – what it means to let them go.

* Name has been changed.

This story was originally published by Kerrie Simon-Lawrence on the Marie Claire Australia website.



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Thursday, 29 October 2026

I Spent a Month Trying to Beat the Winter Blues—These Were the Only Things That Actually Made a Difference

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It's officially autumn: the clocks have changed, we've had our first named storm of the season and pumpkin spice is on the menu wherever we look. And this means only one thing—it'll be winter in the blink of an eye.

For many of us, winter stirs up complicated feelings. On the one hand, there's all the excitement of Halloween (don't judge me!), bonfire night and Christmas, but on the other, it's dark, dank and frankly pretty miserable outside.

And we know that this impacts our mood. While official figures suggest only a small proportion of the population suffers from clinically diagnosed winter depression (more commonly known as seasonal affective disorder, or SAD), studies show that anecdotally, many of us experience dips in mood, energy and motivation at this time of year.

In fact, according to the Yale School of Medicine Winter Depression Research Clinic, around 90% of people notice seasonal shifts in winter, mirroring what we see in nature: a slowing down and conserving of energy for the spring.

For me personally, there was always a quiet dread that accompanied the autumn clock change. As a naturally anxious person, something about the dark, dreary, long days of winter triggered me to feel even more uneasy than ever, so trust me when I say I've spent years searching for solutions to my winter malaise.

So, when I was asked to try a range of beat-the-winter-blues hacks for a month, it's safe to say I was suitably qualified, as well as keen. Would four weeks of brain-boosting habits be just what I needed to embrace the season? You'll have to keep reading to find out—but in the meantime, you might enjoy perusing our guides to autumn energy slump solutions, what the clock change does to your mental health and the antidotes to optimisation culture, here.

The Winter Blues Are Kicking In, so I Tried These Hacks To Feel Better—Here’s What Worked To Boost Mood, Energy and Focus

What are the ‘winter blues’?

As touched on above, it's common (and, experts agree, natural) for our moods to dip slightly as the weather cools and the daylight dims.

“Winter blues is an informal term for feeling lower in mood or energy during the darker months,” explains Dr Ahmed Shoka, consultant psychiatrist at Medical Express Clinic. “Reduced daylight can affect the body clock and sleep. Doing less and seeing fewer people may also contribute to a lower overall mood.”

You might notice reduced energy, increased fatigue and a lack of motivation to go about your usual routines. And while the exact causes of the malaise aren't clear, it's generally accepted that reduced exposure to daylight impacts our hormones, with serotonin levels dipping, causing fatigue and listlessness.

What are beat the winter blues hacks?

The good thing about so many of us feeling similarly about the winter months is that there's plenty of advice out there about how to feel a little brighter. It's important to note, at this point, that if you're concerned about persistent low mood, it's always worth speaking to a GP or medical professional.

This being said, if you're looking for some easy, everyday ways to boost mood and energy, beat the winter blues hacks could be the solution. So, what kind of things are we talking about here?

“When we think about beat the winter blues hacks, we tend to mean small, intentional habits that help you feel more in control of your day,” shares former NHS registered nurse, author and founder of wellness brand, Tolicious, Cass Uk. “It could be something as simple as getting outside during daylight, arranging a weekly catch-up with a friend, creating something to look forward to or being more deliberate about how you spend your evenings.”

Crucially, the habits are simple, easy to fit into a busy life and (perhaps most importantly), free. No chasing unrealistic aesthetics here—music to our ears. Even better? Implementing these habits when life is harder can benefit us even when things are brighter again, too.

“As someone who works with ambitious women making big changes in their lives, I often see how easily personal wellbeing gets pushed to the bottom of the list when work, family and other responsibilities take priority,” she continues. “We can become so focused on getting through our to-do lists that we forget to ask ourselves what we need to feel good.

“For me, the key is to stop waiting until you feel motivated to do something positive. Build small habits into your routine that support you even on the days when your energy is low, especially when you know that the ‘winter blues’ are around the corner.”

I tried these 5 beat the winter blues hacks—here's what actually worked

1. Getting outside (in all weathers)

I'll level with you: I'm a fair-weather girl. When my kids were little, I'd have to get outside come rain or shine, if only to do the school run. But now they're older and more self-sufficient, I can spend whole days not leaving the comfort of my house—and I'm not mad about it. Even my dog isn't a fan of a wet and windy walk, preferring instead to snuggle with me under a blanket on the sofa.

However, the experts are unanimous on the benefits of natural daylight and fresh air for everyone.

“One of the simplest hacks, and yet arguably one of the most important, is getting outside during the daylight hours,” agrees Cass Uk. “Natural daylight helps regulate our circadian rhythm, which influences our sleep-wake cycle, and getting outside can also provide a welcome mental break.”

I'm lucky, though: week one of my month-long challenge is still unseasonably warm, meaning I'm more than happy to head out for a lunchtime run or walk. I'm also able to enjoy my morning coffee in the (almost warm!) sun most days, too, which is a huge win, although possibly not the ideal conditions for testing the winter blues theory!

Perhaps I'll have to revisit this hack later in the month.

2. Embracing the season

A couple of years back, I read Katherine May's wonderful book, Wintering, all about leaning into the joys of winter: hunkering down, stepping back and enjoying a simpler routine. And as much as I loved the premise, I've been (predictably) rubbish at putting any of it into practice.

So, in week two, I'm determined to pare back my routine where I can, and make room for those glimmers we can all find if we look hard enough.

“Winter can be a beautiful time to simplify,” shares advanced meditation teacher Beth Upton. “Fewer social engagements and less time outdoors can give us an opportunity to appreciate the quality of things, rather than continually filling our lives with newness.

“We can become so accustomed to looking for the next thing that we overlook what is already here. A warm drink, an unhurried meal or a quiet evening can offer a great deal when we give it our attention.”

For me, this looked like switching an evening meal out with friends to a morning dog walk and coffee (two birds with one stone, as I was also getting my daily quota of natural light!) and keeping my evening free; lighting the lamps and candles as dusk fell (no big light energy for me, thanks) and popping a chilli on the hob to putter away all afternoon (there are few things I find as exciting as having a delicious dinner to look forward to!)

Turns out, the darker evenings aren't that bad once you find those micro joys.

3. Maintaining social connection

Earlier this year, I wrote about treating my friendships like a wellness habit, and I'm proud to say it's something I've been loving ever since. But in winter, I'll be honest: my tolerance for activities that don't require a sofa and a heated blanket is, let's say, low. But I know that I feel so much better after connecting with my girlfriends, so I'm determined to try harder.

“One of the simplest things we can do to support our wellbeing is maintain our relationships, all year-round,” advises Cass Uk. “When it's cold and dark, it's easy to cancel plans and retreat into our own routines, especially when we're already feeling tired and drained. But this is when it’s extra important to prioritise socialising, so that you don’t end up feeling lonely or isolated during the winter. It could be something as simple as arranging a call with a friend or inviting someone over for a cup of coffee. Small, consistent moments of connection can make a real difference to how supported we feel.”

And I found tying social connection into things that I have to do worked really well for me—wellness habit stacking, if you will. Rather than rushing home from a day working in London and shooting back into town the following day for a meeting, I ask one of my besties to join me for the evening, and we split the cost of a hotel for the night, and it's money excellently well spent. I could get used to this kind of hack....

4. Regular movement

As a health and fitness writer, I'm pretty dedicated to my exercise regimen already, but I know that it can be tougher to motivate ourselves to work out in the winter months. But movement really is medicine when it comes to boosting mood, energy and more.

“I always recommend regular physical activity, maintaining a consistent sleep routine and eating a balanced diet, as these habits can improve energy levels, support physical health and help manage stress and low mood all year round,” shares GP and medical adviser for IQDoctor, Dr Suzanne Wylie. “Exercise does not need to involve going to the gym, as brisk walking, dancing at home, swimming or cycling can all be beneficial, with adults generally advised to aim for at least 150 minutes of moderate-intensity activity each week.”

With this in mind, I don't let the grey skies and drizzle dampen my motivation, and lace up my trainers regardless for a rainy run—and despite spending much of the 45 minutes fantasising about a hot coffee and shower on my return, I loved it. And the sense of achievement that I'd stuck to my fitness goals despite the weather? Off the charts.

5. Prioritising sleep and rest

Another thing I'm notoriously poor at prioritising? Rest. But if perimenopause is teaching me nothing else, it's the value of a consistent and calming sleep routine; otherwise, those 4 a.m. wake-ups hit even harder.

And with the clocks changing, I'm grateful for my newfound diligence: I barely notice the difference, other than my wind-down routine takes place in the dark instead.

“Sleep can be thrown off completely during the winter, but creating an evening ritual that lets you wind down can make you actually look forward to those darker evenings,” shares Cass Uk. “Try creating a simple ritual that signals the end of the working day, such as changing into comfortable clothes, making a warming drink, reading for 15 minutes, taking a bath or listening to a podcast while preparing dinner. It can really help you to shut off and make the darker evenings more enjoyable.”

And she's not wrong: I take the time to head upstairs half an hour earlier for a week (sans screens), and it makes all the difference to how easily I fall asleep. The night wakings, not so much, but we can't have it all.

Beat the winter blues hacks—my honest feedback

So, at the end of the month, which ones am I sticking with, and what's being ditched? It might sound trite, but I can honestly say I've found all of them beneficial.

But of all of them, the one that surprised me was the wintering idea, and that's the one I'd highly recommend, especially if you're an anxious type. Leaning into the cosy vibes encouraged me to notice all the wonderful things about this time of year, both in nature (the leaves! Conkers!) and closer to home, too.

The best bit? Because most of them were things I'd do anyway, I haven't created any more work for myself, which is key, as we're all busier than ever. Rather, I've built consistent, achievable habits that I'm more than happy to keep up—all in all, a winter wellbeing win.

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How can I tell if I have the winter blues or something more serious?

“It is important to remember that although these strategies can help improve wellbeing, persistent low mood should not be dismissed as simply part of winter,” cautions Dr Wylie. “If symptoms continue, affect everyday life or include a loss of interest in usual activities, significant changes in sleep or appetite, or feelings of hopelessness, I would encourage seeking advice from a GP, as seasonal affective disorder or depression may require additional support or treatment.

“Overall, there is no single solution that works for everyone, but combining regular daylight exposure, physical activity, good sleep, healthy eating and meaningful social contact can make winter more manageable and support both mental and physical health.”



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