PSA: Here’s how you can get free cinema tickets to see In The Heights – the stunning new film from the creator of Hamilton

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The creator of Hamilton and the director of Crazy Rich Asians have teamed up on the film of the summer, and Marie Claire readers can see it for free.

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This is not a drill: the film event of the summer is about to drop, and you’re all invited. 

As cinemas across the country finally reopen their doors, Marie Claire readers are invited to a free screening of In The Heights – the stunning new film from Lin-Manuel Miranda (Hamilton) and Jon M. Chu (Crazy Rich Asians). And it’s as easy as claiming your free ticket here.

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Set in Washington Heights, the vibrant New York neighbourhood where a kaleidoscope of dreams rallies a tight-knit community, In The Heights follows Usnavi (Anthony Ramos), a charismatic bodega owner who hopes, imagines and sings about a better life in his native Dominican Republic, while going about his daily grind. 

At turns moving and life-affirming, heartwarming and funny, this beautifully penned musical is the feel-good film that everyone will be talking (and singing) about this summer. So don’t miss out on claiming your free tickets. 

Where can I watch In The Heights? 

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On Thursday 10th June, ahead of its general release on 18th June, Marie Claire readers are invited to see In The Heights at a choice of 20 Vue cinemas across England. 

With doors opening at 6.10pm and the film starting at 6.30pm, free tickets are available in pairs on a first come first serve basis. So don’t delay! Book early to avoid disappointment. 

Tickets are available for the following locations: 

• Bedford
• Birmingham
• Bristol
• Bromley
• Cheshire Oaks
• Fulham
• Gateshead
• Halifax
• Leicester
• Manchester
• Norwich
• Northampton
• North Finchley
• Plymouth
• Portsmouth
• Reading
• Sheffield
• Thurrock
• Watford
• York

First trip back to the cinema? Aced it.

(Warning: we can’t promise that you won’t be listening to the soundtrack for months on repeat afterwards.) 

Popcorn at the ready…

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Pride events: 7 IRL and virtual celebrations to add to your calendar for 2021

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Ready to celebrate?

Last year, thanks to lockdown, Pride events were, by and large, post-phoned or moved online.

But this year, with lockdown restrictions easing and a provisional June 21st ‘freedom day’ date in the diary, it looks like there are plenty of in-real-life events going ahead.

A little background for you: Pride month takes place in June every year to coincide with the Stonewall Riots of 1969. Historically, the Pride movement was built on a core foundation of us standing up for one another. And as LGBT+ people, especially those from marginalised communities, continue to come under attack from many sides, this allyship is as important now as it has ever been.

While there will be more IRL fun than last year, celebrations will still look a tad different for 2021. Due to the ongoing uncertainty of COVID-19, organisers are asking for social distancing to be maintained, where possible, and for those who want to celebrate at home, to do just that. Some of the celebrations will be held later in the year, too, as organisers try to ensure the events can actually happen.

However you choose to celebrate, Pride month will be marching on throughout the month of June sharing the empowering Pride message and offering a positive opportunity to celebrate. Love is love.

Keep scrolling to see our top picks of how to celebrate Pride 2021 online and in person…

Pride events 2021: Is your city celebrating this summer?

Want to know where your closet Pride party is taking place this year? We’ve got you covered.

According to the pros at Pride Events, the largest Pride events this summer are taking place on the following dates in the below locations:

Salisbury Pride – May 29th

Grampian Pride – May 29th

Durham Pride – May 30th

Blackpool Pride – June 5th

York Pride – June 5th

Bradford Pride – June 5th

Exmouth Pride – June 19th

Silloth Pride – June 19th

Harrogate Pride – June 20th

Bournemouth Pride – July 9 to 10th

Bristol Pride – July 10th

Newcastle Pride – July 23rd to 25th

Manchester Pride – August 28th

For more information on directions and tickets, click here

7 pride events to *book now*

1. “Wear your Colour with Pride” Online Open Mic Night

On June 5th, Pride organisations in Bradford will come together for an open mic night online. Between 7pm and 9pm, there will be a live-streamed event featuring musical and artistic performances, speeches from activists and campaigners, poems and plays.

Bradford Pride said: “We are showing our solidarity and support to those members of our community and amplifying their voices through the mediums of Live Art and performance”

FYI, this event is free to register, so grab your tickets now and tune in on June 5th.

See Wear your colour with pride for more details 

2. Tune in to important conversations at Bi-Fi Festival 

Bi Pride UK – the charity celebrating attraction beyond gender – is holding their second virtual Bi Pride event, Bi-Fi Festival, on June 19th.

Taking place from 5 to 9pm, the virtual extravaganza will be live streamed on Twitch. Tune in for discussions around mental health in lockdown, how to be creative from home and what it means to be bi and BAME.

The line-up is backed with drag queens, comedians and spoken word artists, with other activists and performers to be announced closer to the date. Bi-Fi Festival – a leader in creating safe spaces for all who identify under the bisexual umbrella – are concluding the online party with a live DJ set.

 See biprideuk.org for more details

3. Sign up to speed dating

Speed dating events company Original Dating has joined forces with Pride in London to host a number of virtual dating events for the LGBT+ community during Pride Month.

Throughout June, you can join in-person or virtual dates where you’ll be greeted by a host and then taken to your ‘date room’. Enjoy a number of four-minute-long speed dates. Exciting!

See Original Dating for more details 

4. March at Pride In London

Pride in London – the largest annual LGBT pride festival and parade – is to be held this September, and guess what… this year they want you to participate.

As the Pride parade was cancelled last year, the organisers of this event want to go bigger and better than before. So they’re inviting you to wear your most colourful outfits (and masks) and dance through the streets of London to celebrate the cause.

Pride in London will be sharing real stories and experiences from the LGBT+ communities across their social media platforms in the months leading up to the big day to show the world the LGBT+ community is together and stronger than ever before. Tune in.

See prideinlondon.org for more details 

5. Me Dear? Gay Dear? Absolutely Dear! – Walking Tour

Sadly this February, LGBT+ history month was in lockdown, but fear not – there’s a hilarious walking tour with your name on it just waiting to make up for it.

Guaranteed to leave you in stitches but also educate you on Pride history, this event is set to take place on July 17th from 6 to 8pm.

Educate yourself while taking in the sights of London and enjoy celebrity company as a surprise guest joins to guide you through the West End of London. Not one to miss.

Get your tickets here

6. Drag Fest

On the 14th August you better lip-sync for your life, as Drag Fest is back. Enjoy appearances from Todrik Hall, The Kingdolls and many other Ru-Paul Drag Race Queens. In a word: yasssss.

Expect live performances, comedy shows, meet and greets, and more. Condragulations: this one’s a good’un.

Grab your tickets now

7. Laughter Yoga for Oxford Pride

Keen to swap your marching steps for a stretch and a giggle? Yep, you read that right… Everybody Laugh Together company is supporting Oxford Pride this year by hosting what they promise will be a funny and relaxing LGBT+ Yoga session.

Scheduled for June 1st at 6:30pm and taking place over Zoom, this one’s a great op for you to celebrate if you’d rather do it from the comfort of your own home.

The organisers say: “We all know how good laughter feels, right? It’s good for our health, both physically and mentally. It’s also a lot easier to do with others and amazing for connecting us fellow humans, so let’s do it together! Let’s wake up our bodies and spirits with a good old laugh.”

Click here for more details 

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The best facial sunscreens just in time for summer

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Sorry, but that ‘sunscreen leaves my face sweaty’ excuse isn’t going to cut it anymore. The best facial sunscreens are so good, you can apply them with abandon and still look bloody fabulous. 

Need further convincing? If unwanted wrinkles are your concern, a little more motivation for wearing facial sunscreen may be that dermatologists rate it as the best anti-ageing product you can buy.

Why? Because only 20 per cent of the way you age is down to genetics. The rest is the result of environmental damage from the sun and pollution.

‘Suncream not only prevents future ageing but improves existing wrinkles and skin pigmentation,’ explains dermatologist Dr Sam Bunting. ‘This is because when you free skin up from the distraction of needing to protect itself from UV rays, it gets down to the business of repair.’

Facial sunscreen vs SPF moisturisers 

There’s a difference between a facial sunscreen and an SPF moisturiser. You SPF moisturiser is exactly that – it’s your daily face cream with the added bonus of having an SPF in it. Your facial sunscreen is your proper sun protection. The SPF moisturiser is doing two jobs, the facial sunscreen is only there to protect your skin from UVA and UVB damage. 

In Autumn and Winter, or when it’s a particularly overcast day and the sun is at its weakest, the best SPF moisturisers will suffice. But come Spring/Summer you need that extra level of protection. No ifs, no buts. 

How to apply facial sunscreen

1. Apply sunscreen 15 to 30 minutes before you go outside. The recommended amount is ½ teaspoon for your face but if you’re not sure how much that actually is, spread a layer you can see over areas of your skin that will be exposed to daylight.
2. Sunscreen is always the final step in your daytime skincare routine. ‘Nothing should go over the top. Any skin care product you apply over a sunscreen dilutes and reduces its effectiveness,’ warns Paula Begoun, the Cosmetics Cop and founder of Paula’s Choice skincare.
3. Reapply every two hours. Sunscreen delivered via a gossamer fine mist such as Kate Somerville UncompliKated SPF50 is recommended over make-up as it also doubles up as a setting spray.

Do you need a moisturiser under your sunscreen?

We would always err on the side of caution and double up. This of course, completely depends on your skin type. If you have particularly dry skin, some facial sunscreens are just not going to cut it. You need something a lot more hydrating underneath. 

What you should be doing is applying an antioxidant serum like Skinceuticals C E Ferulic before sunscreen. ‘Antioxidants help further shield skin from environmental factors that slowly chip away at its youthful appearance,’ says Begoun.

This is especially true if your serum contains multiple antioxidants as they target different free radicals and work synergistically. So the more you have on at one time, the stronger your defence.

Do I need to wear sunscreen even if I’m staying indoors?

Yes, you should wear some sort of SPF every day.

In the summer months, the best facial sunscreens are broad spectrum to protect against both UVA (ageing rays) and UVB (burning rays).

‘UVB is blocked by glass, but UVA rays travel through it, deep into your skin,’ says dermatologist Dr Hiva Fassihi. ‘So if you’re sitting by the window or in the car, your skin is still at risk of sun damage.’

You’ll also want your facial sunscreen to be at least SPF 30 as this is clinically proven to be a sufficient amount of protection to reduce the adverse effects of sunlight.

In the cooler months, it’s acceptable to use one of the best SPF moisturisers instead of two separate products.

Mineral or chemical?

Another consideration is a mineral or chemical sunscreen. Both are equally effective, it’s simply a matter of preference.

Also known as ‘physical’ sunscreen, mineral versions contain zinc oxide and/or titanium dioxide. By definition, any mineral sunscreen is going to avoid riling sensitive skin.

‘Mineral sunscreen sits on the surface of the skin and deflects the sun’s rays,’ says dermatologist Dr Stefanie Williams. ‘An added bonus is that you can go out straight after applying it.’

Chemical sunscreens – more accurately called ‘synthetic’ sunscreens – absorb into the top layers of skin, where they work in two ways. They scatter and deflect the sun’s harmful rays, and convert UV rays into heat in order to ‘deactivate’ them. (Sounds scary but you won’t feel a thing!).

Common synthetic sunscreen ingredients include octisalate and avobenzone.

The best facial suncreams you’ll actually look forward to using

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Ever heard of ethical porn? Here's where, exactly, to find it, plus why you'll want to get behind it

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All the pleasure, none of the guilt

The traditional feminist position on porn has always seen it as an exploitative display of male power; an act of sexual pleasure ‘done’ to women’s bodies. But a new generation of women are interested in sustainability, equality, and porn’s potential power to turn them on, when done the right way. Enter stage right, ethical porn.

The stats reveal a lot. More than a third of 18 to 35 year old women watch porn at least once a week, according to a recent survey. And, fun fact: the majority of women surveyed reported being in a relationship and watching porn on their own for their own pleasure. As you totally should, if you want to, single, in a relationship, or other.

Another fun fact: most of the women also reported an interest in the ethics of the videos they were watching. That is, making sure the individuals featured are treated well, and ensuring what they’re watching isn’t perpetuating sexual stereotypes.

That’s what ‘ethical’ porn encompasses. Keep reading to learn more.

Ever heard of ethical porn? Here’s your beginner’s guide. 

So, what is ethical porn? 

In short, any content that cares about the performer’s welfare. That’s according to Mistress Tytania, a fetish pornographer and dominatrix who prefers the term ‘independent porn’ to ‘ethical’.

“Independently-made porn gives importance to the performers and to their sexual expression,” shares Tytania. “It often shows sex in a context that avoids cliches: think stereotyped body shapes, repetitive, mechanically-performed sexual acts, or reactions that sound and look predictable, or staged. Once you’ve seen porn when the people in it are enjoying what they are doing, you will always recognise it. You can’t unlearn it.”

Interested? We thought you might be. Oh, and pssst: make sure to check out our guide to the best eco friendly sex toys, while you’re here.

Where do you start with knowing how to find ethical porn

Not sure where to start? Let these simple tips from Nichi Hodgson, author of The Curious History of Dating.

The Curious History of Dating, by Nichi Hodgson, £9.72
Bursting with little-known facts and tantalizing tales of lovelorn men and besotted women, Hodgson’s intriguing history of amorous relationships may leave you grateful that you live – and love – today.

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1. Do your research

“Like going to the supermarket hungry, searching for ethical porn when you’re horny isn’t likely to result in a nutritious video haul,” shares Hodgson. Instead, it’s better to do some exploring when you’re not in the mood for pleasure, then create yourself a playlist, per se, for when you are.

Some good sites to start with include:

– Joybear, an all-British upmarket affair
– Pandora Blake’s Dreams of Spanking
– Director Erika Lust’s site
– BrightDesire.com
– Anything by the filmmaker Shine Louise Houston
– Cindy Gallop’s Make Love Not Porn site, which showcases the amateur videos of real-life couples.
– afterglow, a newly-launched, women-led erotica site that produces cinematic adult films that highlight consent, celebrate genuine pleasure, validate personal boundaries and embrace diversity of body size, race, sexuality, age and ability.

2. Get to know your favourite stars

Like any porn, getting a taste for your favourites will only set you in good stead in the long run.

“These days, adult performers know the value of social media, not only for connecting with their fan base, but for building a brand and expressing their real views about the industry,” Hodgson shares.

“Depending on where they’re positioned within it will affect just how ‘real’ they are, but the most independent-minded and creatively engaged – people like Vex Ashley or Stoya  – are consistently open and expressive about their vision for their work and what they enjoy doing with their bodies.”

Be sure to check them out.

3. Always pay

This is important. “Porn is no different to any other venture,” explains Hodgson. That means that if you haven’t paid for it, realistically, someone isn’t being paid fairly to make it. “That’s frequently the performers,” she shares.

Top tip: the best thing to do if you have a favourite performer, according to Hodgson, is to visit their personal website. “Either watch the videos available there or order yourself a bespoke video, which is made to the performer’s own schedule with a larger share of the revenue going to them.”

And, remember… enjoy.

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Best sex toys: treat yourself to some mind-blowingly good orgasms

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Aka, how to choose the best sex toys for you and 18 of the best vibrators, dildos, and more to *add to basket* ASAP

If you’re searching for the best sex toys, we’ve got a fun fact for you. Did you know that the sex toy industry makes nearly £12 billion yearly?

According to UK sex toy stats, roughly half of you have played around with a sex toy, while an Indiana University study found that 50% of women use a vibrator regularly.

Right now, as lockdown restrictions ease, dating (and sex with someone not from your household) is back with a bang. Couples who don’t live together are finally allowed – legally – to have sex again. And boy, are they: there was an 363% increase search for the morning after pill the day after lockdown lifted.

But if you’re not back on the dating scene quite yet – or are just keen to make your alone time – a bit more kinky, you’re in the right place.

The best sex toy discount codes on offer now:

• Save 20% on sex toys at Look Fantastic for new customers
• Save 50% on Lovehoney

Why should I use one of the best sex toys for women?

So what’s the big deal, aside from it feeling, well, really rather good? You may be surprised to hear that the health benefits of using a sex toy are multi-faceted.

Studies suggest that investing in (and experimenting with) a sex toy can, for women:

• Ease body aches and menstrual cramps
• Assist with relaxation and deep sleep
• Reduce night sweats in menopausal ladies.

Plus a 2019 Harvard study found that sex toys can help ease vaginal atrophy, vulval or vaginal pain and vaginal tightness, which is sometimes caused by vaginismus, vulvodynia, lichen sclerosus, gynae cancer treatments, low libido and neurological conditions, such as multiple sclerosis.

Alongside the reams of health benefits of getting intimate with one of the best sex toys on the market, they can also have a positive impact on your emotional wellbeing. Reports show that using a vibrator can help promote confidence, happiness and relaxation. (Pssst: read our guide to the best masturbating techniques and tantric sex, now). The dream deal.

Whether you’re keen to invest for health or pleasure reasons, the question remains: where, then, do you even begin to start with finding the best sex toys for women?

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The must-buy: Lovehoney G-Kiss Vibrator, £19.99
Save you scrolling all 18, our top pick is the G-Kiss Fluttering Clitoral and G-Spot Vibrator. It’s the best sex toy for women for hitting your g spot and won’t cost a fortune, either.

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Keep reading for our round up of the very best toys available right now, for every sort of sexual appetite, from the experienced Hitachi-wand wielding women to the simply-just-curious-to-see-what-a-sex-toy-can-do-for-you-and-your-orgasm kinda gal. There’s a sex toy for everyone just waiting to make your orgasms easier, more powerful, and more fun.

Oh, and do read our guides to the best dating sites and sex apps, while you’re here.

18 best sex toys to buy now

1. Moregasm+ Bullet – £45

Good for: Hitting the spot

Review: The Moregasm+ Bullet might be small, but that doesn’t mean it’s not powerful – even the first (and lowest) setting promises to surprise you. Waterproof and super soft silicon, it’s a very affordable investment. Plus, it’s discreet – so if you’re gunning for some quiet solo play you don’t have to worry about the buzz waking up your housemates.

Buy now from Ann Summers

2. PLSRx The Wand – £19.95

Good for: A plug-free wand you can use anywhere

Review: While most wands come with a long cable that requires a nearby plug socket, this cordless sex toy for women is chargeable and can therefore be used anywhere you like. The battery lasts for up to two hours, and thanks to the adjustable intensities (there are five pulsation modes), you’ll definitely get the most out of it. You need never Google best sex toys for women again…

Buy now from Amazon

3. Amo by Hot Octopuss – £36.37

Good for: A scientifically-created sex toy

Review: If you’re on the hunt for a sex toy for women that’s a little bit different, you need to try this. The design has roots in medical science research, and promises a powerful motor and a perfect fit. Enjoy.

Buy now from Hot Octopuss

4. Bijoux 21 Vibrating Diamond – £8.25

Good for: Precise stimulation

Review: A vibrating diamond, you say? This Bijoux design is ideal for solo play or couples. It looks luxe (who doesn’t want to use a gold diamond during foreplay?) and makes it easy to target the right spot. With seven patterns and three vibration intensities, it’s a great toy for beginners looking to take sexual satisfaction to the next level. Best sex toy for couples? Sorted.

If you’re keen to take it up a notch, may we suggest vibrating pants? You were warned.

Buy now from Bijoux Indiscrets

5. Lovehoney G-Kiss Fluttering Clitoral and G-Spot Vibrator – £19.99

Good for: hitting your g-spot

Review: If you’re looking for a sex toy for women that will hit the g-spot (and won’t cost you a fortune), look no further than the Lovehoney G-kiss vibrator. You’ll get twice the stimulation, thanks to the additional rabbit-style ears, plus it focuses on the two most important intimate areas. It’s also waterproof, so there’s the option for shower play.

Buy now from Lovehoney

6. Flex Rechargable Rabbit – £45

Good for: blended orgasms

Review: The trusty old rabbit vibrator has come a long way. Not only is the Flex made from super-soft silicone, it’s able to stimulate your g-spot and clitoris simultaneously and it’s actually flexible – meaning you can use it in any position that feels good for you. With a satisfying ten vibration speeds, it’ll get you to the finish line in no time.

Buy now from Ann Summers

7. LELO Hula Beads – £149

Good for: When you want some tantalising foreplay

Review: As the first ever remote-controlled pleasure beads, the Hula boasts a unique design sure to get your blood racing. The beads rotate whilst vibrating, great for fun foreplay or to use for your own pleasure. One ‘satisfied’ customer said her Hula beads are ‘the best purchase [she] ever made’. Now if that doesn’t count as one of the best sex toys for women, we don’t know what does.

They’re also waterproof and come with a handy storage bag, so you can use your beads wherever and whenever you have the desire.

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8. LELO Ora 2 – £130

Good for: When you’re struggling to climax

Review: It may look small, but don’t be fooled. LELO claims that this is ‘the world’s most intelligent oral sex simulator’ and it seems many women agree, the toy boasting many a five star review. One woman even credits the multiple vibration rotation settings for her first-ever long-awaited orgasm. It’s quick charging, offering a unique sensation and intelligent movements for an unrivalled experience. (Psst: read an expert’s answer to the most Googled questions about orgasms, now).

Buy now

9. Fifty Shades of Grey Inner Goddess Silver Pleasure Balls – £24.95

Good for: Anyone wanting stronger orgasms

Review: You don’t need to have watched the film or read the book to get some pleasure out of these jiggle balls. While you’re enjoying the sensation of them moving around inside you, you’ll also be giving your pelvic floor muscles a serious workout. When you orgasm, your pelvic floor muscles pulse, and the stronger those muscles are, the more control you’ll have of your orgasm, giving you more powerful sensations. With a handy tag to make getting the balls out easier, these balls are like a sex workout in your pocket.

Fancy investing in another Fifty Shades sex toy or reading up on bondage for beginners, while you’re here? Introducing, the Spreader bar. Oh yep.

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10. Mantric Rechargeable Bullet Vibrator – £44.99

Good for: When you’re looking for the real deal

Review: This powerful bullet sex toy is a Lovehoney favourite for a reason. It doesn’t vibrate, it throbs. Inside is a weighting mechanism, along with the motor, and this makes it seem like it has a mind of its own.

Buy now

11. The MIA 2 from LELO – £69

Good for: When someone might see your vibe, ie you’re travelling

Review: It’s a lipstick… or is it? This is a vibrator cunningly disguised as a lipstick. It even comes in different shades of pink and has a USB charger, so you can charge it on the go.

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12. Doxy Extra Power Massager – £89.99

Good for: When you just gotta have it

Review: If you’re looking for stability and reliability, you can’t beat the Doxy Extra Power Massager. It’s 30 per cent more powerful than the once-famous Hitachi wand (the one Samantha raved about in Sex and the City back in the day) and has incremental speeds and pulsations, so you can keep increasing the pleasure until you reach climax. Importantly, it also has a long cable – nearly 3m long – which means you don’t need to worry about losing power while you’re using it.

Buy now from Lovehoney

13. LELO NEA 2 – £85

Good for: Playing with your partner

Review: This sleek rechargeable toy is what Marky Mark should have been rapping about, with eight different settings making for a night of good vibrations. Designed to be easily shared with a playmate or used on your own, it’s also waterproof if you decide to spice up shower time.

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14. LILY 2 – £119.99

Good for: Adding atmosphere to your experience

Review: Kick all your senses into overdrive the next time you fool around with this cute scented vibrator. There’s flowery scents like rose and wisteria or lavender and Manuka honey as well as a delicious Bordeaux wine and chocolate edition that’ll put an unexpected spin on playtime. Scent a big deal for turning you on? You’ll love this chocolate-scented sex toy candle.

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15. Satisfyer Pro Deluxe – £36.69

Good for: When you’re short on time

Review: This little gem-shaped vibrator works hard, using sound waves and Satisfyer’s insane suction technology for an avalanche of orgasms. A little more discreet than its counterparts, it fits nicely into your hand and charges with a USB cable so you don’t have to worry about those pesky batteries.

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16. Crescendo – £149

Good for: Control freaks

Review: No playtime experience will ever be the same with this customisable vibrator, which allows you to choose and create your own vibration patterns, take into the shower and even bend into different shapes to help you hit the right spot. This is definitely one for the technophiles, as it syncs to an app full of different vibrations depending on what kind of mood you’re in. If you’re feeling a little creative, you can also create your own good vibrations and also control where along the toy’s length that you want the biggest impact.

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17. Womanizer 2Go – £79.99

Good for: Grab n’ go ladies

Review: For the more reserved of us, the Womanizer 2Go clitoris stimulator looks like a standard lipstick (albeit, a much larger one.) So, it won’t attract as much attention if found in your bedside table because it more looks like a box, if anything. But, don’t let it’s novelty fool you – this clitoris-stimulator is powerful, and doesn’t actually have any direct contact, thanks to its hollow design, so it won’t over-stimulate you.

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18. Kip  – £69

Good for: targeted stimulation

Review: American brand Dame Products has just started shipping to the UK, and its lipstick vibrator is both powerful (there are five fabulous speeds) and waterproof. Available in lemon or lavender, it’s easy to hold from many angles, has rounded edges and a soft silicone touch provide vibration with pinpoint accuracy. Even better, it’s USB rechargeable (no batteries) and comes in a travel-friendly package. Perfect for those impending UK staycays…

Buy now from Dame Products

And there you have it. See – finding the best sex toys for women wasn’t that hard, was it?

If you’d rather invest in an eco-friendly sex toy, head to our round up now.

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So, you’re on the hunt for sex advice. There’s blogs, books, heck, even sex influencers now… but how do you know what advice is legit and what’s, well, not?

By making sure the top tips you’re paying attention too are from a qualified pro, that’s how. We’ve been chatting to doctor Laura Vowels, a sex and relationships therapist and researcher at sex therapy app Blueheart, on the most important bits of advice she normally gives out to her clients – and practices herself.

A bit like our edit of the best sex apps, and guides to tantric sex, bondage for beginners and sex dream meanings, this expert-led piece has got all the tips you need for a seriously steamy sex session.

Vowels is an ICEEFT certified emotionally-focused (EFT) therapist and a PhD researcher at the University of Southampton so trust us when we say – you’re in good hands.

So, can sex advice boost your sex life? 

It obviously depends on the individual and, in turn, the couple.

Relate charity report that sex therapy has helped 93% of couples who’ve used the service. While reading sex advice isn’t a replacement for actual IRL therapy, it’s certainly a step in that direction.

What does Vowels reckon? “As a sex and relationships therapist, I’ve advised hundreds of couples on how they can improve their sex lives,” she shares. “While there’s certainly no right or wrong way to have sex, there are a few universal principles that can help almost everyone enjoy a healthier and more fulfilling sex life.”

Like…? Below is the advice that Vowels often given to her clients – and that she likes to follow herself.

Sex advice from a pro: 6 top tips

1. Stop kink and fetish shaming

Ever confided in a partner or friend-with-benefits figure only to be teased or mocked for your sexual fantasy? Yeah, it’s happened to the best of us. It’s important not too, though – sex should be a safe, judgement-free zone, according to the therapist.

“If your partner is comfortable enough with you to share their kinks and fetishes, the worst thing you can do is judge them,” she explains. “Passing judgement will only damage the safe space that you’ve both created in your relationship, and it can also hurt their feelings or prompt them to feel shame or embarrassment about their desires.”

Try this: Encourage your partner to be honest with you when it comes to their kinks and fetishes, and don’t pass judgement if it’s not something you’re into, Vowels advises. “It’s ultimately a joint decision as to whether you feel comfortable engaging in their kinks (this isn’t an obligation in any relationship, and you won’t necessarily find the same things pleasurable). But at least be open to hearing about them and accepting them without judgement.”

“Discussing them openly might even help you to discover sexual desires that you didn’t know you had.”

This advice is invaluable because…

Exploring what turns your partner on is a great way to please them sexually, or so says the expert. “You also might find that you enjoy what they enjoy, which can bring you closer and lead to enhanced sexual pleasure as well as a deeper bond between you both.”

“Not to mention, being open to what they like will encourage them to be more open to your desires and wants.” Winner, winner.

2. Share what turns you on

Sounds simple, isn’t so much in the moment sometimes. “Expressing what turns you on and appeals to you sexually can sometimes be scary because it makes us feel vulnerable, but as long as you trust your partner, sharing what truly appeals to your sexual nature can enhance sex for both of you,” shares Vowels.

Note here – just because you have shared something, doesn’t create an obligation for your partner or you to do anything they don’t want to do, she says. “But being open and honest creates connection and intimacy in a relationship, and being clear on what you both like can also help you get the most out of sex, making it a more pleasurable experience for you both as you confidently press each other’s buttons.”

This advice is invaluable because…

It’s invaluable for making sex more fulfilling. “Your partner can learn to please you, making sex generally better as you both work to achieve what works for you. It can also bring a greater sense of intimacy to your relationship when you’re honest with your partner,” she explains.

3. Don’t be afraid to use sex toys, alone or with a partner

So you’ve stocked up on sex toys, even opting for some eco-friendly sex toys and sex toys designed specifically for men, too. What now? Time to get to work, says Vowels.

“I find that sex toys are often wrongly seen as a means of pleasure that only single women use, but actually, couples and men should be more open-minded about using sex toys,” she explains. “When it comes to using sex toys in a relationship, men can often worry that their partner won’t enjoy sex without toys and might become dependent on using them, which isn’t true.”

Top tip: Opt for couples sex toys designed to enhance both partners’ pleasure. Plus, remember: just because you use sex toys one day, doesn’t mean you have to use them every single time you have sex.

“The most important thing is not to let the stigma deter you from incorporating sex toys into your sex life,” stresses Vowels.

“If you want too, do, if you don’t, don’t: using toys can be a great way to explore your bodies together and discover fun new ways to enjoy sex with your partner, but there’s no pressure.”

This advice is invaluable because…

Keeping an open mind is key when it comes to sex advice. “Sex toys can create a sense of excitement and a new means of pleasure, and forgetting the taboos and stigma that come with using sex toys can also be sexually liberating for both of you,” says Vowels.

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4. Remember: less sex doesn’t = a bad sex life

One of the most damaging myths Vowels shares that she regularly encounters? The idea that not having as much sex means your sex life is bad. “This simply isn’t true,” she emphasises.

“In life, we go through ebbs and flows,” she explains. “You might find yourself wanting to have sex three or four times a week one week, and the next week not wanting sex at all.”

You and your partner might also connect and experience intimacy in other ways that don’t involve penetrative sex, she goes on. Plus, note that how often you have sex depends on a range of factors, including:

• Business
• Stress
• Anxiety
• Mental health
• Being on the pill
• Your menstrual cycle
• Major life events

“These will no doubt affect your sexual desire and the frequency of sex,” explains Vowels.

“Be mindful and don’t put pressure on yourself – the value of your relationship and your connection with your partner can never be measured by sex alone.”

This advice is invaluable because…

“Pressurising yourself to have sex when you don’t want to is unhealthy both mentally and physically,” she shares. “If you don’t want to have sex you may experience issues climaxing or getting turned on.”

Top tip: Be honest with yourself and accept that sometimes you will want sex, and other times you won’t. Simple.

5. Re-think your desires 

Hands up if you’ve fallen into the trap of thinking what pleases you sexually stays the same forever? Again, this isn’t true, or so says the therapist.

“Over time, our desires change. It’s important to make sure we’re exploring ourselves and our partners to keep things exciting and work out what feels good now,” Vowels explains.

Try this: try new sex positions, role-playing, Kamasutra or reading erotic fiction. “They’re all fun ways to discover new sexual preferences and behaviours that you might not have considered before.”

This advice is invaluable because…

Being sexually curious and exploring new things can make sex more enjoyable and pleasurable – simple. “Relying on the same sexual behaviours to help you enjoy sex can sometimes lead you to lose interest in sex, so don’t be afraid to spice things up,” Vowels reccomends.

6. Practise the Sensate Focus technique

Ever heard of it? Don’t worry – we hadn’t either. “Sensate Focus teaches you and your partner to be more mindful of your intimate experiences, and eventually help you achieve more pleasurable sexual experiences,” explains Vowels. “It can also help to reduce any anxiety associated with sexual situations.”

A similar wavelength to tantric sex sensate focus sessions involve exploring both your own body and your partner’s body through touching without a goal of having to engage in intercourse or to have an orgasm, the therapist explains.

“This means that you focus on sensations such as texture, pressure and temperature, whilst learning techniques to help you ignore negative, intrusive thoughts that might occur during intimacy, such as wondering how you look naked or thinking about that presentation at work,” she goes on.

Struggle to stay present during sex? This one’s for you.

This advice is invaluable because…

Although you probably wouldn’t have guessed it, so many people struggle with intrusive thoughts during sex and can sometimes feel a pressure to climax during sex, shares the therapist. “Sensate Focus takes this pressure away and encourages you and your partner to focus on feelings and enjoy being in the moment.”

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